Anonymous asked: hey how are you thinking of transitioning do u have any advice?x
Yeah, sure, a few points:
Transitioning is something that will affect 99% of your life. It shouldn’t be taken lightly. We don’t go through all the dysphoria, the self-loathing, the depression, the anxiety of passing, the ignorance, being ostracized from friends and family, to look good in a pair of heels or rock an awesome soul-patch.
Its not something you want to do; It is something you need to do.
The effects of hormones are reversible up to a certain extent. Transitioning is often called a second puberty, and the timeframe is similar. Some individuals experience calmness of being and more coherent thoughts fairly soon (arguable whether that may be placebic [MS Office tells me that’s not a word but screw it – imma gonna use it anyway] affect due to the relief of finally being on hormones). From a female point of view, after several months your skin may become more translucent and acne becomes less of an issue. This is usually the period when spontaneous erections and a loss of sex drive may occur. Breast development typically becomes begins around the 3-6 month mark, as does fat redistribution and changes in muscle mass. The effects on fertility vary greatly and may become permanently decreased. There is no guarantee they may return to pre-hormone levels.
I’m saying this because I know some therapists may offer a “trial run” to test if cross-sex hormone therapy is right for you. Sometimes the psychological changes are enough to know whether it is right for you or not.
If it is for you, don’t be discouraged when you don’t see immediate changes. Rome wasn’t built in a day. It’s a slow process. It takes time and patience. HRT also won’t change you on its own. Helping the process by feminising (or masculinizing vice-versa) often helps. Hormones alone don’t flick some magical “Fabulous” switch.
Delve into the LGBT community. Branch out, meet new people in similar circumstances. You may feel alone but just knowing that there is someone in a similar predicament who you can talk to about some things is immensely beneficial and supportive. They can also inform you about trans*-friendly places, where to avoid etc.
And transpeople are scientifically proven to be awesome. It’s a fact.
A healthy lifestyle is important. Taking estrogen increases the likelihood of thrombosis (blood clots, for those of us who never watched House) and liver function. For guys, polycythaemia (over-production of red blood cells, or so Google tells me).
You should eat sensibly and take regular exercise. Drug taking, excessive alcohol consumption and obesity are all factors that can undermine your hormone treatment, as well as heighten the risk of complications. If you are a trans woman and you are taking oestrogen, smoking reduces its feminising effects. So cut that shit out. Or do what I do and become used to being massively hypocritical.
Anonymous asked: I know I'll probably get a bad review from this but yeah... I randomly good you today. I went through so many of your answers to questions and my oh my, you're so sexy with your words. The funny things you say make my day and your character make me want to know you. I want to talk about random happenings with you, I want to laugh with you and learn about you. You're an awesome person and I hope you fucking own it. Your style rocks and I might be straight, but you deserve an orgasm from my mouth.
That was a lovely message and I really appreciate the sentiments but you know when you hear something that makes you laugh uncontrollably…
"you deserve an orgasm from my mouth."
I just wanted to take some time out of my day to let you guys know how grateful I am for my life.
I am grateful that I woke up today
I am grateful that my health is good for the most part
I am grateful to have all of my limbs
I am grateful for my long hair
I am grateful for my breasts…
truth-beyond-perception asked: When you started cross-dressing in college, was it strictly a personal activity, or were you fortunate enough to have a girlfriend or sexual partner to encourage your explorations?
My first gf in college was pretty amazing… despite how crazy she was. But we lost our virginity to each other so we got to explore a lot. She was the first one I ever told, EVER.. about my cross dressing. Told her I liked to wear her clothes while she was away in class. And really she was just more concerned about me stretching out her tighter fitting clothes and if I had gotten any of them dirty, lol. She went through her stuff and gave me clothes that she didn’t wear much anymore so that I could have my own and just asked that I let her know when I wear her clothes.
She really enjoyed that I was so open about it. And then one night we were getting kinky and she started tickling around my back door, and I moaned and maneuvered my body in way that said “yes, yes please… keep going” and so she did. Then she stopped for a moment and asked if I thought I would like anal… I proceeded to tell her that I already knew I did, so we discussed a strap-on. She was nervous about it, mostly in fear of hurting me lol. About a month later, we had strap-on sex for the first time and she thought it was so much fun and loved the way I looked and how I moaned in ways she had never heard.
A few months later into the relationship (this was after being together for over a year) she did my makeup, dressed me all up in her clothes… and then got excited over how I looked, tried to convince me to shave my legs, get a wig, and go out with her into town all dressed up. Just something simple, like going to McDonald’s for a bit… as to not throw me into the deep end on my own. I refused cuz I was too nervous and would not be able to keep myself from being hard… I sorta regret not doing it now, but perhaps sometime in the future with another gf.
After that relationship, my second gf (who was my most recent gf) also supported me. She didn’t interact and/or participate as much (hence why I believe I started a tumblr to have another outlet) but she loved me for being myself and loved that I was accepting this part about me rather than rejecting it.
I now have a great handful of close friends who know about my cross dressing and strap-on fetishes. Only one person knows that I’m attracted to trans women and he was only concerned that I hadn’t told him sooner.
Needless to say, I’ve been very fortunate to have so many people in my life support me and accept me for who I am :)
Anonymous asked: do u like girls or boys?
Why OR? I think AND fits! Or better … I like humans. Their gender doesn’t matter (for me)
"this project documents the experience of gender nonconforming and transgender biological boys at an annual weekend family camp [which] offers a temporary safe haven where [they] can freely express their interpretations of femininity alongside their parents and siblings.
"these images represent the spirit of the children as they shine in an atmosphere of support. here they can be true to their inner nature without feeling the need to look over their shoulders.
"some of the ways in which the kids shine is through the talent and fashion shows at camp…for which the campers come well-prepared. some practice for the talent show all year, and others create their own gowns with their mothers or friends of the family.
"the focus and enthusiasm is really pretty incredible. also, it can be very emotional for the parents, especially the families who are new to camp and are experiencing this kind of group acceptance for the very first time.”
- photos and text by lindsay morris
Anonymous asked: rrrrrrrr, you're so beautiful-! Can I meet you and have sex with you?
Of course dear anon. Wearing such a pretty clown makeup for you. Moment please I’m looking for my sexiest lingerie and hope to meet you tomorrow in anon-city. :p